Living as Love With the Guidance of the Enneagram With Robert Holden, Russ Hudson & Jessica Dibb

What You’ll Discover in These 5 Months

In this 5-month transformational intensive, Robert, Russ, and Jessica will guide you through the fundamental body-mind-spirit skills and competencies you’ll need to BECOME love, moving into an abundant, authentic connection with yourself and our world.

Module 1: Being Love in the 21st Century — Wisdom, Power & Creativity (March 12)

The shift from seeking love to becoming love is an immense transformational process. In this opening session, you’ll get grounded in the foundational principles you’ll need to embody the power of love for positively impacting your life and our world.

Get ready to start making a quantum shift in consciousness, exploring the 3 Stages of Love and finding out how to develop a way of being where you live from love in every moment.

In this module, you’ll:

• Envision what embodied, authentic love can do for your life and your contributions to the world.
• Discern between emotional reactivity, attachment, and love.
• Hear Robert, Russ, and Jessica’s journeys into becoming love.
• Explore moving from concretized relationships to dynamic relatedness.
• Discover the connection between love and creative action.
• Experience a meditation through the 3 Intelligences and Expressions of Love: Somatic/Body Center, Emotional/Heart Center, and Awareness/Head Center.

Module 2: Meeting Your “Basic Fear” With Love (March 19)

Our “Basic Fear” is one of the primary blocks to our full awareness of love’s constant presence. In fact, the Basic Fear is what gives rise to every other fear, including the fear of love.

This week, you’ll identify your own Basic Fear and meet it with loving awareness and acceptance of how it can help you undo every other block to love.

In this module, you’ll:

• Understand the origin of the Basic Fear.
• Identify the Basic Fear of each Enneatype.
• Recognize the effects of the Basic Fear.
• Learn an experiential practice to meet the Basic Fear with love.
• Practice moving from Conditional Love to Unconditional Love.

Module 3: Object Relations, the Enneagram & Love (March 26)

As you develop your awareness of your psyche, you see that it’s constantly running particular patterns. Both modern psychotherapy and the spiritual traditions behind the Enneagram recognize this, and work with these patterns. In some cases, there are beautiful correlations between the findings of both disciplines.

One such correlation comes from psychotherapy: the study of object relations. Our object-relations patterns form very early in our development, and our ego self is largely composed of these patterns.

As you’ll see, they form a significant root to how you address your needs, and offer enormous insight into your central relationship issues and possibilities. Like much else we encounter on the inner journey, we cannot get rid of these patterns. But with grounded, compassionate awareness of them, you can transform yours into direct paths to experience love.

In this module, you’ll:

• Recognize three basic groups of object-relation patterns.
• Understand how and why these patterns form and what they seek to accomplish in our psyches.
• Find out how to recognize our fundamental object relations as they arise in our relationships.
• Discover how object relations play out in particular Enneagram types.
• Engage in an illuminating exercise to transform these patterns into ingredients of authentic love.

Module 4: A Soul-Centered Approach to Self-Love (April 2)

“All love must include self-love or else it is not love.” — Robert Holden

Your capacity to love others, and to love the world, is mirrored by your ability to love yourself. Why? Because it’s all the same love!

Here we’ll examine nine ways of self-love. We’ll look through the lens of the Enneagram at what self-love really means. We’ll explore why self-love can be so difficult and how we resist loving ourselves more. We’ll discuss how to stop objectifying ourselves in different ways. And we’ll each open more fully to being loved and being love in every moment.

In this module, you’ll:

• Experience the miracle of self-acceptance.
• Look into the mirror of non-judgment.
• Sit upon each of the nine meditation seats (the nine points) on the Enneagram.
• Explore nine powerful spiritual practices to cultivate a more loving relationship with yourself and others.
• Feel a fresh willingness to let life love you more.
• Build courage to show up more authentically.
• Experience a potent practice for seeing your secret beauty.

Module 5: Trauma & the Loss of Presence & Connection, Part 1 (April 9)

This week, you’ll explore the ubiquity of trauma and learn to reduce its stigma. We’ll look at some of the symptoms of various forms of trauma — seeing how they alienate us from groundedness in our bodies and hearts — and explore how each of the Enneagram types adopt strategies for coping with trauma.

As we examine types Eight through Two, you’ll understand how the Basic Fear of each type is exacerbated by trauma… you’ll find out how trauma leads each type to move toward its stress point… and you’ll explore ways to bring love and relief to triggers.

In this module, you’ll:

• Identify the many common symptoms of trauma.
• Explore the relationship between trauma patterns and our capacity for relatedness.
• Learn how the type patterns are an attempt to manage our trauma.
• Look at how each type oscillates with its stress point as a trauma response.
• Practice methods for recognizing trauma triggers and bringing loving attention to them.

Module 6: Trauma & the Enneagram, Part 2 (April 16) (Pre-Recorded with Live Q&A)

In this module, we’ll continue our exploration of trauma in the Enneagram types, looking at the remaining types, Three through Seven.

You’ll also explore experiential work for identifying and working with trauma patterns, and:

• Practice ways of holding trauma and building counterbalancing resources.
• Explore triggers for traumatic responses in your relationships.
• Perform breath and somatic exercises that support your healing and growth.
• Discover resources for ongoing work with trauma.

Module 7: Recognition, Repair & Resilience — An Experiential Journey From Wounds to Wholeness (April 23)

At this point in the course, you’ll be supported by your explorations and experiences of real love, and you’ll have a more profound and precise understanding of how trauma obstructs our capacity to give, receive, and be love.

Now you’ll have the opportunity to be guided with compassion and love itself to unwind your adaptive defense strategies around trauma, and to hold trauma in the field of love, healing, and transformation.

This will be a deeply moving and impactful, experiential session in which you’ll:

• Contact power and love.
• Direct your attention and tenderness to places of psychological and somatic trauma.
• Create breathing space and attunement for your trauma so it can reveal both its pain AND its resilience.
• Bring the strengths of your Enneagram type to meet the pain and fear of trauma.
• Invite the “felt sense” of resiliency that your body/heart/mind has developed and that the gifts of your Enneagram type can support.
• Be guided through a healing journey to work with internalized and patterned trauma using breath, movement, inner inquiry, poetry, meditation, and journaling.

Module 8: Forgiveness as a Spiritual Path (May 7)

Love is natural and easy… until the first wound. And unfortunately, the first wound happens early. The need to forgive the unforgivable arises before we even know how to forgive.

Yet without forgiveness, we cannot love. Forgiveness is a quality of love that enables you to choose love when you’re afraid, wounded, in pain, or facing a dark night of the soul. It’s how you can raise yourself up when you stumble and fall. It’s how you can set yourself free from any hate or revenge.

In this class, we’ll explore how forgiveness relates specifically to each of the nine Enneapoints and Enneatypes.

You’ll discover:

• The great need for self-forgiveness.
• How forgiveness can undo the Basic Fear.
• How forgiveness can heal the passions.
• How forgiveness can release us from our fixations.
• The relationship between forgiveness and the virtues.
• An impactful meditation for releasing all nine fixations and opening to the healing power of forgiveness in each Enneagram type.

Module 9: Anatomy of Relationship Roles (May 14)

This week, we’ll explore the anatomy of childhood and social roles, and how they play out in adulthood — in our friendships, romances, and work and leadership roles.

Initially, our childhood roles are designed to help us adapt, fit in, be accepted, and love and be loved. But if you hold on too tight to your roles, they can become blocks to love and work against you in your actions and relationships.